Libby Barstow
I need a friend to sit with me
To help me struggle through,
The sadness and the anger,
And the crying I will do.
I need a friend to set with me
To help me work this out,
The guilt and all the anguish,
The times I’ll want to shout.
I need a friend to sit with me
To help me through my pain,
The longing and the emptiness,
The need to speak his name.
When you are grieving, you will experience a roller coaster of feelings and emotions…
Most people I work with are afraid of the tears….
Crying is a common characteristic of the grieving process, but not crying doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with you,
Unless, you are avoiding your true feelings.
Everyone’s grief is unique and everyone’s style of grieving is also unique.
I am the only one in my immediate family who is a crier.
My family after many years finally understands that this is how I cope; when I am sad I cry!
Many people believe (myself included) that crying just makes you feel better emotionally and physically!
Crying cleanses the soul…
Don’t be afraid of the tears when they come, allow them to flow freely…
It’s ok to cry… God gave us tears for a reason
Jesus wept… John 11:35
But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My Power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
2 Corinthians 12:9
So if crying is your coping style… Decide to have a good cry today!
Praying for those in mourning today…
Grief is the price we pay for love. –Elizabeth II
We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. -Kenji Miyazawa
Memories are the windows that hold the past in view. Through them we can see again each joy we ever knew.
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The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters.
He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil;
My cup runs over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the Lord Forever.
“GRATITUDE makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
Acknowledging the blessings we have is key to a joyful and peaceful life.
We have so much to be GRATEFUL for and when we don’t acknowledge the ABUNDANCE that surrounds us on a regular basis, we tend to believe we are lacking or missing out.
We take so much for granted; but we need to have an
It is so easy to be thankful when things are going well, but when things aren’t going well we need to take a step back breathe and remind ourselves that we still need to be grateful… even in the pain.
Being thankful doesn’t mean that everything in our lives is perfect; it’s a daily conscious decision to have a grateful heart in all circumstances.
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
1 Thessalonians 5:18
Take time to appreciate what’s in front of you…and be thankful for today…
“The remarkable thing is, we have a CHOICE everyday regarding the Attitude we will embrace for that day.”
Chuck Swindoll
What you do DAILY will determine your tomorrow….
REMEMBER to be active and present in your life DAILY.
DAILY gratitude helps you develop a positive attitude toward life.
If you want to change something in your life you can!
But it will take a Daily commitment!
Let’s talk about Grief!
Don’t run away…
Stop and turn around with open arms and begin to embrace the hurt and the pain that you are experiencing…
You want me to EMBRACE my Grief?
Yes, it is important to embrace, to become familiar with, to understand, to connect with and to know your grief.
It’s YOUR grief and no one can take it from you or experience it the way you are experiencing it.
Grief can be a dark, confusing, scary and lonely journey. It can be agonizing to lose someone or something that you love.
But in order to get to the other side you have to walk through it.
Is this an easy process? NO, absolutely not, but it is a necessary process.
Even though grief is universal; remember everyone grieves differently – we all have our own personal unique story.
Be compassionate, patient and kind to yourself. Handle your grief with care.
Remember:
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
Psalm 34:18
There is Hope!
Owning our story can be hard, but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. -Brene Brown
Fun Facts About Bev
I love chocolate, Sophie my Bichon Frise dog, Canadian chinese food, laughing, reading, french fries, learning new things and quiet time.
Hope Focused Coaching
Helping you to live & grieve well!